I have discussed the importance of clearing the source of a problem, rather than just the symptoms many times. However, it can often be difficult to recognize that there is a problem if it has been buried deeper over the years, showing few symptoms or those easier to ignore. Perhaps the root cause is completely forgotten and you are able to push through and ignore the symptoms most of the time, convincing yourself that you are perfectly fine.
A favorite quote of mine comes from Calling in the One by Katherine Woodward Thomas.
“Our unhealed wounds are invisible prisons - capturing us with our iron bars just as surely as if we were locked inside cold gray concrete walls. Sometimes it seems, no matter how hard we try to escape, that we will forever be prisoners of our own sad stories, doomed to repeat painful dynamics over and over again, in spite of our wishes to the contrary.”
I see this with people over and over, both personally an...